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Monday, May 21, 2007
We're Baccckkkk...

Hi! Remember me? Mom of 3 with no free time? Yep! That's me. Glad to be back.

I have received a few IMs and emails asking about me, family, life..wondering if we are surviving. Short answer? Yes. Long answer? Well, sure we are surviving with some difficulties and disappointing news here and there but we are moving right along.

Mr TSB is doing okay. He's a wonderful dad and an awesome husband. He stands by me and our girls on the toughest days and does it with a smile on his face. Except he went to work this morning and left me here with only 3 diapers. But lets not hold that against him, ok?

Big Sis "graduated" from the 3K program and has spent almost every day in the pool since then. She is getting so big and is so smart. She still isn't sure if she likes her sisters but we are working on that. Now since Twin S is mobile all I hear all day long is..STOPPPPPPP THAT'S MINEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE....MAMAAAAAAAAAA GET HER. Yep, she uses caps and all. But we were told we may be losing her to her biological dad. It kills our heart but he's done nothing wrong except not be in her life for 3 years and never paid child support..but he does come to visitation for a hour twice a month and according to DSS that makes him a good dad (catch the sarcasm did ya?) We will know more on July 31st at 9:30am.

Twin S is great. Developmentally she is on target and above on some things. The shunt is still working wonderfully. She is crawling (has been since March) and is now pulling up on furniture and standing there and smiling..she knows she's doing something special. She can say "dadadadadada" "nanananana" and "mamamamama" and has learned to make kissing sounds with her lips. She still isn't intrested in finger foods....she just gags. She will eat Ritz crackers though..that's a start. She now has 4 teeth and 2 more is on their way. Oh, and she has bitten me twice and I have the bruises to prove it! Ha!

Twin E isn't doing as well. We found out today she has West Syndrome (infantile spasms) and she will be going in for another EEG on May 29th and will be starting meds this evening. Bless her heart, she has been through so much and never makes it around the corner. She takes 1 step forward and 15 steps back with her medical issues. We are still dealing with her acid reflux and she is already on multiple meds for that and is already taking seizure medications and her we go adding more. She is in therapy 3 times a week. Speech, Physical and Occupational..its a rough road for her but we are by her side every moment. She has 1 tooth now and another one on it's way. She isn't crawling yet. She babbles very little but when she does we are there to listen to what she has to say :)

Myself? I finally went to the doctor and they prescribed some meds for nerves. I just take as needed. Most days I am fine and happy..but then there are times that it seems the whole world is falling down on us and I'm trying to protect my children...but thankfully those days are few and far between now.

To everyone that has prayed for us, asked about us, thought about us...thank you so much. You will never know how good it feels to have someone IM or email and just ask about us..makes us feel there are people out there thinking about us.

I hope everyones summer is going good. I promise I am going to start posting more frequently. Have a wonderful week!


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Sunday, April 01, 2007
Protector, Mom, Chearleader and Best Friend...

Many of you have no idea about my kids, some of you do, but not in detail. I guess I should give some background so you will know where I'm coming from. I received these kids through foster care. They were brought into the system for abuse. Severe abuse. So severe the babies (then 7 weeks old) were on the brink of death. We were told they may not make it out of the hospital. They made it out and have been in our house and our hearts ever since.

Twin S had to have a shunt put in the drains fluid from her brain because of the damage from the blows to the head. She's fine. Developmentally she is a little behind but she is crawling now, sits up on her own and babbles (Dadadadadada and Babababababa)

Twin E, bless her heart, is having problems. She can't sit up, she can't roll over, she can't see very well and she doesn't babble, although she is starting to coo now. She had a seizure before she was admitted into the hospital and she's on 3 different medications. We went last week for a neurology appointment and although we were told semi good news last time we saw the neurosurgeon we didn't get good news this time. They showed me the CT scan and where the strokes were and the good parts of her brain. She is going to have MAJOR problems, and we are willing to deal with that.

So we have gone from a family of two (hubby and me) to a family of 5. As wonderful as that is and as happy as we are....we are a family of 5 with a disabled child. My nephew has Down Syndrome and I have seen how hard its been for my brother and sister in law to deal with it all, but I wasn't here in the beginning. The beginning is hard. HARD. Since E is a twin she is always with her sister. We get looks. I have been asked "what's wrong with THAT one?" and I have always just brushed it off. Today? While standing in line at a store I was asked "What's it like to have a beautiful child and a retarded child that are twins?" My heart stopped. Is this lady saying something is wrong with my child? Is she saying because E is disabled that she is LESS beautiful? I did what I felt was right, I cried. I cried all the way home.

My child has a long road to travel and we are getting as much help as we possible can, but is this what she has to look forward to? I feel so sorry for her. I don't feel sorry for us because we are a family, we respect each other and love each other...but the outside? not so much. People say with time the comments won't bother you as much but when I see a perfect child, although she has challenges, how can I not take hateful comments like a stab to the heart? I am hoping the world will change and she will never been shunned for the way she is but sadly enough it's not going to happen and I will just have to be her protector. Not only will I be her protector, mom and cheerleader...I will be her best friend.


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Monday, March 26, 2007
Jesus, Pass The Snacks Please..


So, Big Sister goes to a 3k program at a local church. Every Wednesday they are read a bible story and colors a picture. Wednesday when she came home I asked her about the pictures, here's how the conversation went...
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Me: Oh what a pretty picture, what did Jesus and his friends eat at the special meal?
Her: I don't know. ( a VERY common answer from her)
Me: Well, look at the picture, what are they eating?
(she studies the picture for a few seconds)
Her: Chocolate Chip Cookies, Goldfish crackers and koolaid.
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God I love her..and I can TOTALLY see that!


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Thursday, March 22, 2007
Music To Our Ears...

We heard the magic 9 words we have been waiting for.
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We're going with termination of parental rights with adoption.*
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Squeeeee! We are going to be a FOREVER family. I'm going to be a FOREVER mom. We will never have to fear that we are going to be childless...ever!
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We couldn't wish for more perfect, beautiful girls.
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*Although nothing is final until court, it's looking SO positive for us!


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Monday, March 12, 2007
What To Say...What To Say...

first thing, I would like to say thank you for the emails and messages from friends and family asking if I had fallen off the earth or died. Nope, still alive and kicking. Just real busy.

When I dreamed of having a family I thought it was going to be a fairytale. (I'll wait for you to finish laughing and wiping the tears.) It's hard. HARD I say. When the 3 kiddos came into the house I realized it was going to be a little busy..but now? I'm happy to get a chance to get out of my pajamas most days. See how I didn't say everyday? It's stressful, and there are nights when I lose sleep thinking about how I can make it better. I would never admit to this but I think I am way over my head. Is this a normal thing or am I not meant to be a mother? The 3 year old is in a tantrum stage and the twins are in the "food? formula? Ha! I rule this house and I will refuse to eat just to make you lose your shit and cry" mood. They have decided to not eat, at all. Formula? getting MAYBE 21 oz on a good day. This week all 3 have a cold. Snot is pouring out from everywhere!

Last month I put Big Sis in 3K and she loves it. She goes Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. She is learning alot and is SO smart. I couldn't be prouder of her. She has made friends and loves them very much. She is starting to learn to pick up after herself, but has learned to throw herself on the floor when told to do so. Ahhh...it's wonderful.

Twin S is teething. So not only am I wiping snot every .0000002 seconds I carry a drool cup with me. She is close to crawling and babbles..all day long I hear "bababababababababababa" and "dadadadadadadadadada" but do I hear mamamamamama? Nooooooooo. Yes, I am still working on it. We did have her evaluated for physical and occupational therapy and we were told she's fine. Yay!

Twin E on the other hand is a whole other story. We went to see a pedicatric eye doctor and we were told she was blind. My heart broke in two. I cried, I argued and in the end I ran the doctors out of the room. I wasn't finished so I called her neurologist and had a referral to a neurosurgeon the same one that did brain surgery on Twin S. He agreed to do a CT scan for me and find out what was REALLY going on because up to this point I had been told so many things. "She's blind" "She's brain dead" "Her brain isn't going to develop, good luck" I was tired of hearing it all and wanted to know answers. After the CT scan he walked into the room, I was holding Twin E so tight I thought I was going to break her, and the words came out of his mouth..."She is going to be okay, not perfect, but okay. " Yayy! After my heart started pumping again we made plans. During the abuse that the family caused it made Twin E have multiple strokes. One stroke was on the vision part of the brain, but with rehab it can possibly get better. She has been in rehab for awhile now and I can see so much progress. I am so proud of her. She is starting to hold her head up better now and can hold toys in her hand if we put it there. Developmentally she is at 1 month old level but getting better every day. Please continue your prayers for her.

We received a phone call today from the adoption department of Social Services and we will be having another homestudy on the 30th of March. That gives me 3 weeks to make my house look perfect. We are hoping we can adopt these girls and we are waiting for a court date...although it's in the judges hands on if we can keep them or not, I don't see how he could go any other way.

This weekend it the Aiken Triple Crown kickoff and we are going to the
Aiken Trials. Living in Aiken you HAVE to love horses that's what this whole city is about. Luckily, the 3 year old loves horses and I hope she enjoys the races.

Well, there's a Readers Digest version of my life...I promise pictures and more post are coming soon. Hope everyone is doing well :)


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Sunday, February 04, 2007
Wheee!

We've had a wonderful weekend! We spent most of our times indoors since it's so cool, but it was sick free. Really. Seems someone is always sick,upset stomach, sinus problems or just feeling blah and irritable. So? Wheeee! Although we do believe the twins are plotting against us and we are running for cover. Evidence photo...


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Thursday, February 01, 2007
Dear Internet Moms....HELP!

Hi internet moms! Yeah, even you over there in the corner. I, the all knowing, needs help. Major help. As you know I have 6 month old twin girls and a 3 year old girl. I'm having some problems and I need advice. Here goes...

Twin S is teething (we think) and she drools ALOT. Her little chin stays red and chapped. She wears a bib and I wipe as much as I can but it doesn't seem to help. Any suggestions on what I can do to prevent it?

Big girl (our 3 year old) REFUSES to take a nap. I lay her down everyday at 1, everyone takes a nap then. She will not go to sleep which would be fine but by 5pm she is a devil. Oh the whining, and moaning and arguing...by 5:15 my head wants to explode. Any suggestions? We have tried letting her watch a Dora the Explorer (gag) movie if she takes a nap...she could care less.





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I'm a SAHM to 3 girls. We became foster parents in May 2006 in hopes of adoption. We love our girls and could never picture ourselves without them. Although life is much busier, we couldn't be any happier. Here's our story...