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Wednesday, November 30, 2005
It's A Boy!

Today, I got a phone call. It was a girl I work with, since I don't like using real names, we will call her Ms. UnFitMother. So UnFit called to tell me that her son was born. 7lbs, 7oz. I don't remember what his name was, but I do remember thinking I didn't like the name. Anyhoo, as I was talking to her on my phone and driving to one of my patients houses, she tells me how much she doesn't want the baby. She has been saying this all along, but I figured once she saw him and held him things would change. I was wrong. She already has 2 other boys, 6 and 3, and she is living with her boyfriend. She said she doesn't want to marry him because if she did, they wouldn't be able to get WIC, food stamps and free medical. She tells me she wishes she had enough nerve to put the baby up for adoption because she knows she will never love him. (This comes as a shock to me..how a mother can never love her child) Well, I didn't know what to say. I have my own opinions on the whole situation, but I have learned through the years just to keep my mouth shut. Hopefully, she will choose the right thing, and follow her heart.

As far as my health, it sucks. I finally have my glucose levels under control...tight control. So, just when I thought I would be able to go back on fertility drugs, my blood pressure goes bonkers! My BP is very high and I am retaining so much water. The Dr. has me on 4 different diuretics and nothing is helping. She is giving me until Friday to lose some of the water and my blood pressure to go down, or she is admitting me into the hospital. ACK! So, not only do I NOT want to do that, I won't be able to go back on my fertility meds until the blood pressure comes down. Mr TSB and I talked it over and we are going to try 2 more cycles, when we can, and that will be it for us. We will accept the idea we won't be having any children. As hard as that is to accept, that is our reality.

We have checked into adoption and we don't have $25,000.00 sitting around to adopt. Surrogacy is JUST as high. We are planning on looking into foster care after the first of the year, but we still may not get our OWN child out of that. I guess we will sit back and wait to see what God gives us. In the meantime, I am taking donations :)

link | posted by Mrs. TSB at 6:56 PM

Blogger Moon had this to say:

Ummmmmmmm. I'm wondering if she was trying to hint to YOU about adopting her child?
That child deserves better. And I'd contact social services and mention what she told me. "Unwanted" children are more likely to be abused. I hate women like her. She gives us single moms a bad name. (Uh, can you say birth control? After all on welfare, they pay your medical bills. She's probably committing welfare fraud by living with the bf, btw.)
Also, don't just consider private adoption. Do consider being a foster parent and looking into an adoption through there. You're not likely to need $25,000 and a child, like the one above, will be lucky to have a good home with people like you Jenn. And foster parents are so needed, you could probably get involved now and do some child some good. Even if it is just while you wait and exercise your next two tries at fertility.
Take it from someone who's adopted.

11:38 PM 

Blogger donna had this to say:

You may be sitting back waiting whats going to happen Maybe God but a baby right in your lap. If not too late youmay want to talk to MUFM to see if she was serious about the adoption and then just maybe ya'll could havea bundle of joy by christmas. What a wonderfull christmas gift that could be for you and the hubby but more so for that baby boy.

5:13 PM 

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I'm a SAHM to 3 girls. We became foster parents in May 2006 in hopes of adoption. We love our girls and could never picture ourselves without them. Although life is much busier, we couldn't be any happier. Here's our story...